I hope everyone had a great holiday. I admit while I planned to take a week off to focus on the family it turned into a much longer break. I’d like to say we were just having so much fun that I lost track of time. The truth is we had one of those breaks were all five of us took turn passing around various colds, coughs, and sniffles. Nothing major, I am not trying to complain. It definitely could have been worse, but it was enough to keep us home for the most part. While I am a bit bummed we didn’t do all the fun things I had hoped, we managed to have a lot of quality time together. So I’m still going to mark this holiday in the win column.
I am happy for the break. It really gave me a chance to sit back and think about what I want and my goals for the year. And I’ve been seeing all sorts of posts with people announcing their ‘word of the year.’ Okay, to be honest, has this been a thing for long? I don’t remember it being a thing. Now I am seeing it everywhere. I know I am getting old, but I didn’t think I was that old. Maybe I can blame mom brain for that. That’s a never-ending excuse, right? Right.
While I am all for goals, I am not sure I can limit myself to one word for the year. Anything I think of is either too generic or too specific. But then it hit me, I know exactly how I want to tackle 2018. Three words for me: I get to.
Three little words, but they can make a big difference. Look, life is busy, this isn’t going to change anytime soon. A lot of what we have to do in life are things that, well, we probably don’t necessarily want to do. I’m sure right now you can think of something you have to do tomorrow that you don’t want to. Momming alone gives a laundry list of activities that need to be done that, well, I wouldn’t mind not doing. Making lunches, changing diapers, heck the actual literal laundry. Then try to fit in everything else that we women are told we need to do just to be considered humans.
Anyone else get tired just thinking about it?
I can’t change my to-do list. Well, I suppose I could. I could just not do things, but that doesn’t really solve the problem, does it? Things still need to be done. But what can change is my mindset. I don’t have to look at the daily tasks as things I have to do. They are things I get to do.
Yes, that little change in thinking is all it takes. I get to clean up after my kids. I have them with me, and while they make messes I wouldn’t want them to be anywhere else. I get to comfort them when they cry out at night. Isn’t it a blessing that I can be with them and calm their fears. I get to work hard for my family. Being able to care for my family is the greatest blessing in the world, and every act of service I do for them is a reminder that I am fortunate enough to love them.
I know, it is a bit saccharine. But think about it. When you are looking forward to something, like a trip or a night out, people tend to phrase it as ‘I get to.’ If it is something they don’t want to do you hear ‘I have to.’ Which one would you rather frame your day with? I’d rather focus on what I get to do.
So this year, my goal is to change my mindset and remember that I get to do everything on my to-do list. I get to be there for my kids and my husband. I get to work hard, and I get to serve my family. It’s a little thing, but it really changes my perspective and gives me more joy in everyday tasks. I get to do this life thing as best as I can.
I’m going to challenge you as well. Try it out. Think of one thing you do not want to do. Something you dread having to do. Now say to yourself, ‘I get to .’ Did it feel any better? Okay, maybe not right away, but keep trying. What’s the harm, right? But I think you will find that these three little words can make all the difference for you too.
This year is going to be great because I get to.
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