Has your child ever decided that they know what is best for themselves (and sometimes everyone else)? While it can be cute to see your little one thinking they are such an adult, it can lead to a lot of problems. While our child might think they know what is best, we all know they are still in fact children. They are not adults yet. This can turn into a very frustrating problem, and often results in some battles of will. No one wants that. Natasha from Let’s Be Brave explains this very well and offers up some solutions for us. She writes:
Did you look at this title and think, Hey Kim, you don’t have a preteen. How can you offer advice on how to correct them? You’re right, I can’t. Well, not from experience any way. It isn’t me offering the advice. We are kicking off another full week of Babywise Friendly Blog Network (BFBN) posts! I recently introduced what the BFBN is and it’s members, and I am super excited to have a whole week of posts from these great ladies. This week we are focusing on Babywise topics, but not the ones that usually come to mind. I think we most often think of schedules and sleep behaviors when we think of Babywise. There are so many other great ideas in these books though! This week we are going to take a look at several different topics from Babywise.
If you’ve been visiting Team Cartwright for a bit you might have noticed I have some posts that involve the BFBN and wondered what in the world that is. I know before I joined I saw posts from some of my favorite bloggers talking about it. Honestly I skipped those posts for a long time. I mean, I liked what I was reading so why should I go to a different blog? What does this group have to offer me? Well now I know it has so much to offer!
It’s been awhile, but I think it is time for a new Babywise Favorite. I remember reading about this one in the babywise books and thinking, wow, that really makes sense. What is it? It’s simple- the pause. The pause is just that, a moment in which you wait. Your child somehow attracts your attention, and instead of just rushing in to ‘save the day’ you take a moment to assess the situation.
It sounds so simple, right? Just take a moment to observe before you act. But that can be hard with your baby. When your baby cries the first thing you want to do is pick him or her up! That might not always be the best solution though. There are a few times when waiting and seeing what your baby will do can be very beneficial.
Last day of this BFBN week! We have had some great posts this week to try to get rid of some of the myths surrounding babywise. Today we have two last great posts.
The first comes from Cole from Twinning Babywise. She is talking to us about Haters Miss the Point: Babywise is More Than Just Sleep. Some people think babywise is just about getting your baby to sleep through the night as soon as possible. Yes, we all want our babies to sleep at night so we can sleep too. But babywise is so much more than that! Cole writes:
“The purpose of the -wise series isn’t to get your kids sleeping through the night as quickly as possible (although, BONUS!). The purpose is to teach new parents how to be good stewards of their children. The objective is a parent who is in control of their children and their family – one who can make the distinction between what is best for a child’s development and what the child wants in the moment. “
Day four of this BFBN week! Today I am here to discuss the myth that babywise and scheduled feedings will diminish your milk supply.
I want to start this post out by saying I know every woman’s body and every nursing relationship is unique. I don’t want to ignore the fact that sometimes breastfeeding just doesn’t work. I think the idea that scheduled feedings will automatically mean a diminished supply is just not true though. A big misconception about babywise is that it tells you not to feed your child if he or she is hungry. Well, Valerie from the Chronicles of a Babywise Mom pointed out specifically all the times that the babywise book actually tells you to feed your baby if he or she is hungry! Check it out here. (Not to mention if you think your baby is hungry are you really going to not feed him or her because some book told you not to? I don’t think so.) There is a difference between letting your baby go hungry or trying to go as long as possible between feedings and feeding on a schedule. And feeding on a schedule does not mean your milk will automatically dry up.
Today in BFBN week we have a great post from Carrie at Wiley Adventures. I have often read that babywise equals cry it out. This is not true! I haven’t done cry it out with my babies and I have had plenty of success with babywise. Carrie writes, “Nowhere in the “On Becoming Babywise” book does it tell you that you have to do CIO to be successful with Babywise. In fact, the book doesn’t even give you a guideline for sleep training at all. It does say that “it is an aquired skill that is enhanced by routine” (pg. 55). But the heart and meat of Babywise is a Parent Directed Feeding Plan and the Eat Wake Sleep Cycle… NOT sleep training.”
Halfway through this BFBN week! So far we have had a couple great posts dispelling some common babywise myths! Today we have two more posts to check out.
Natasha from let’s be brave talking about how babywise works for you. She writes, “Many people who think of babywise immediately think of hyperscheduling or cry it out or whatever. And while babywise does incorporate a schedule and encourages you to allow your baby to learn how to self-soothe, what it’s NOT doing is demanding you stick to a rigid schedule or let your baby cry for hours and hours and hours. Babywise provides the skeleton for structure; it’s a parenting tool.” This is so true. I really think babywise provides suggestions and a guideline to follow. Implementation is totally up to each individual parent. You can read the rest of her post here: Babywise works for you (not the other way around)
Day two of BFBN week! Yesterday we learned a lot of the basic myths about babywise. Today Katrina from Mama’s Organized Chaos is talking about how babywise isn’t forcing a schedule, it is figuring out what works best for your baby.
It’s a Babywise Friendly Blog Network week! This week the ladies of the BFBN are talking about different babywise myths. Today Valerie, the Babywise Mom is starting us off with the basics. I think her post really explains a lot of those myths. Head on over to her blog to check it out!
Be sure to check out all the blogs this week to learn more!
Here is the rest of the schedule for the week. Be sure to check back to read more!
- : Valerie at Chronicles of a Babywise Mom talking about the Myths versus Realities of Babywise.
- : Katrina at Mama’s Organized Chaos talking about how Babywise isn’t imposing a schedule; it is learning the ideal schedule.
- Wednesday: Shea at The Moses Home talking about How Schedules Keep Us Flexible, Not Rigid. Natasha at Let’s Be Brave is talking about how Babywise works for you (not the other way around)
- Thursday: Carrie at Wiley Adventures is talking about how Babywise and Cry It Out (Or Don’t) Kimberly at Team Cartwright will be discussing Myth: Babywise Automatically Diminishes Milk Supply
- Friday: Cole at Twinning Babywise talking about how Haters Miss the Point: Babywise is More Than Just Sleep
- . Emily at The Journey of Parenthood talking about How to Make Babywise Possible with Multiple Children