How to encourage individuality in toddler twins.
Twin parents know we need to treat our twins like individuals, not like a unit. That’s a no-brainer. They are two different people. So yes, encourage them to have their own interests. Spend time one on one with them. Great, got it. But what about when your twins are still toddlers? How varied can their interests be? What if you are the primary caretaker alone with twins (or more) during the day? How do you take your twins out one at a time? It isn’t as simple as it sounds. So just how do you encourage individuality in toddler twins?
It’s easy to get into the habit of treating twins as a unit as babies. Newborns mainly have the same needs. You need to feed them, keep them clean, help them sleep, and cuddle them. Those are the biggies. Both twins need the same thing and it is much easier to do these things for them together. Even as toddlers a lot of the basic needs are the same. A lot of toddlers have very similar interests. Add to that I am the only adult around my twins most of the time. It’s way easier, more practical, and sometimes safer to keep my twins as a unit. So it is up to me to make sure I am recognizing them as two separate people and reinforce their individuality.