Oh my gosh I fought this so hard. I did NOT want to join a mom’s club. I thought the idea of paying for friends was so silly. I thought I’d be able to make friends. I thought I’d be able to find mom friends naturally. I tried and I tried hard. I was disappointed again and again, and I finally broke down and tried my local mom’s group. It’s been almost a year, and I am really glad I gave it a shot.
BFBN Trade Day today! I am over at Wiley Adventures talking all about water play with littles. Kids love to play in the water, and it is a great way to have fun and stay cool this summer. It can be a bit an intimidating activity to undertake if you have young children, multiple children, and are the only adult around. With simplicity and safety in mind, it can be done though! Head on over to see my tips.
Today we have Cole from Twinning Babywise! Summer is approaching. Longer days mean children might be going to bed while the sun is still out. That can cause some troubles. Cole is here to help us through it.
I have a great guest post today. Valerie, the Babywise Mom, is giving us her tips on how to help toddlers and preschoolers get used to interacting with a new baby. It can be a tough transition to big brother or sister. There is this new little person you want to play with, but they don’t play right. And everyone is yelling at you to be careful! I really appreciate all the advice on how to help big siblings interact with the new little people in their lives.
I’m over at Wiley Adventures today. Carrie is someone who loves to read, much like myself. She recently posted about sharing Harry Potter with her daughter, and it got me thinking about all the books I am looking forward to sharing with my kids. Check out my post of 8 Books I can’t Wait to Read With My Children!
by Valerie Plowman
The idea of a new baby sounds nice and even exciting to a child, but the reality is often much different than the child imagined. I mean, isn’t it different than anyone imagined? The reality is that baby takes a lot of mom’s time, baby cries, and baby is a baby. Baby isn’t a playmate or a social equal. Baby won’t be ready to really play with the older sibling for many, many months to come. And even when the baby starts to be able to play somewhat, it still isn’t a running around having a good time type of play.
Valerie is mother to four and blogs at www.Babywisemom.com.
Be sure to check out the other ladies of the BFBN today!
Well, we have survived the first year of having twins. Go us! I can’t believe a whole year has gone by. It is so true what they say sometimes, the days are long but the years are short. I feel like the girls were just born yesterday, but that we’ve had them forever. So yup, all the cliches are holding up here. 🙂 I’ve decided to take a couple of weeks and look back at all things twin. I really love blogging because it helps me organize my thoughts and keep a record of our lives. Things can get pretty hectic, especially with three kids, and I don’t want to forget this amazing year.
To start off with we have a guest post from Gramma! Gramma has a unique point of view in that both of her kids have twins. And no, there is no genetic reason why we both should, just pure chance. Can you imagine having one set of twins as grandchildren, then finding out you are getting another? I’m not sure what the odds are on that, but I would think not very high. I asked her to write a bit about her thoughts when she found out Ali and Sammy were on the way, and a bit on her perspective of the girls’ first year. Thank you so much for writing, Gramma!!
Here is what she had to say:
|Gramma and Sammy!|
|Gramma and Ali!|
It’s a trade day! The ladies of the Babywise Friendly Blog Network are swapping blogs on all sorts of topics today. I am over at Twinning Babywise talking about baby led weaning and how having twins impacts using that method.
Here I have Emily from The Journey of Parenthood! We recently switched Ben from his crib to his big boy bed. So far he is following the rules and doing a great job. But I am already looking down the road at when the girls switch beds. Emily has gone through the transition with three kids and has some great tips to make the change easier!
- Build Up the Big Kid Bed: This is my #1 tip about switching from the crib to a bed. TALK IT UP people! Make it a HUGE deal! If you have a new baby on the way also talk about how the crib will be for the new baby and how special it is that he or she is going be a big brother/sister etc. Get them excited for their new bed and they will LOVE it!
- Have Consistent Discipline: This is something you need to have in place prior to the transition. If you’ve been slacking a bit on a consistent discipline routine then get back on it and make sure your child knows that if they disobey Mommy or Daddy then there are consequences and make sure they know you will follow through with those consequences!
- Lay Down the Rules: Decide with your spouse what rules you want to enforce with the new bed and then communicate those to your child. No standing, no jumping, no getting out of bed etc. Give then clear expectations and explain the consequences if they choose to disobey.
- Clear the Room: Remove temptations! Make sure there aren’t toys on the floor where your child will be tempted to get out of the bed and get them. Have a clean room so it’s rather boring for them! Set them up for success!
- Keep Things Similar: Your child is comfortable in their crib so you want to shadow that experience as much as possible. If they are used to white noise, keep it. Black out curtains? Keep em. If they sleep with a lovey, be sure to bring him along for the big switch too!
- Watch and Respond: A video monitor is so crucial for this transition. You want to be able to watch your child like a hawk and RUN into their room the second they step foot out of the bed. You want to catch them in the act so they will understand they aren’t supposed to get out. If they are out and playing and then you get onto them later they will not make the connection as well as if you get onto them the instant they step foot out of the bed.
- Be Stern, Be Firm, Follow Through: When the toddler gets out of the bed be firm with them in reminding them of the rules. Remind them also of the discipline action you will take if they choose to get out of the bed again. Then it’s so important to actually follow through. I like to give that one time of me just getting onto my child so they understand fully what I’m expecting and what will happen if THEY choose to disobey. Then the second time? I follow through with the disciplinary action.
- Praise: Just as you built up the big kid bed, you gotta keep the excitement going! When they have stayed in the bed and it’s time to get up SHOWER them with praise! Make them feel like the biggest big kid ever!
It’s a BFBN trade day! I’m over at Mama’s Organized Chaos giving my bath time confessions. Here today I have Cole from Twinning Babywise. She is telling us her twin story! I love hearing about how people found out they were having twins. Really I love the story of finding out about any baby, but twins often take us by surprise. Cole’s story is great! And be sure to check in with all the BFBN ladies to read some great posts today!
The First Appointment
How It Happened
Just a Small Note About Worry
It’s a BFBN trade day! I’m over at The Moses Home today talking about why I try to maintain a normal schedule when my kids have a minor illness. Here today I have Katrina from Mama’s Organized Chaos! She wrote a great review of the Wonder Weeks book. It’s amazing to learn how babies learn about the world around them!
- This Week’s Fussy Signs: This section outlines what behaviors and clues to look for indicating that your baby is about to make a developmental leap. There is a diary section where you can check off the signs you’ve noticed to help you keep track of things.
- The Magical Leap Forward: This section discusses the new skills and abilities your child may acquire during the leap. Again, there is a diary section with a checklist . This was probably our favorite part of the book! We loved reading about all of the new skills that our baby would soon acquire!
- What You Can Do to Help: This is an amazing section, that gives you ideas for games, toys, and even focused activities that are catered to each stage of development. This is also one of my favorite parts to read through and gave me some great ideas!
- After the Leap: After the leap, your baby will start to be happy, and more independent again. This section lets you know when to expect this.
The Wonder Weeks “Grey Period”- What is it?
Wonder Weeks- Leap 6
Katrina is a mom of an almost 2 year old daughter (Caroline). She is a former engineer and high school chemistry teacher, turned stay at home Babywise Mama! Head on over to Mama’s Organized Chaos to read more.
Positive reinforcement is a powerful way to encourage good behavior. You might think “reward” and worry it will either take too much effort or that your child will come to depend on it. Rewarding your child for choosing to do the right thing should be a natural part of life and does not need to be something big. You want to help your child recognize what behavior is appropriate while also helping your child learn to be self-motivated to make right choices.