What are your parenting goals?
By that I don’t mean Make it to dinner time or Find the missing sippy cup. Think long term, way beyond when your children are tiny and still under your direct care. What do you want for them? I think most parents want their kids to be good people. They want them to be nice, successful, happy. Can we get more specific than that? Do you want to raise someone who is trying to change the world? Someone who seeks out others to include instead of exclude? Maybe someone who is smart with money and lives within their means? These are things to think about.
What are your parenting beliefs?
No, I’m not talking about no dessert before you finish your carrots. Do you think kids should be seen but not heard? Should we be teaching our kids to get in touch with their feelings or do we worry there are too many ‘special snowflakes’ around for that? Are you dead set against spanking? How do you feel about cry it out?