Have you ever asked your child to do something and gotten absolutely no response? Like you aren’t even sure they heard you? If you answered no you are a way better mom than me because I know I have. If you are like me the answer is a big old yes.I don’t think this is always a case of my child being rude or disobedient, it is often because he is just distracted by all the other things going on in the world. I try to make my children look me in the eye and respond when I speak to him. This helps us both make sure we are on the same page. Katrina from Mama’s Organized Chaos agrees.
“We require two things:
1. “Look at Mama/Daddy, please” – Before we give Caroline any instructions, we make sure she is listening. This is something that I learned as a teacher (high school teacher no less). It doesn’t matter your age, if you aren’t looking, you most likely truly aren’t listening. So, we have Caroline look at us prior to giving any instructions or requests.
2. “Yes, Mama/Daddy” – Once we’ve given Caroline our request, we require a response. This helps in two ways. One, her acknowledgement of us tells us she heard us. Two, children are much less likely to throw a fit/tantrum if they are having to speak and give a response. We even give Caroline a heads up and say something like “Caroline it’s almost time to stop playing and go brush your teeth. When I come back in and ask you to come brush your teeth, I expect you to say ‘yes, Mama’“. Now she’s so accustomed to this I can end the above statement with a question- “…what should you say to Mama when I return?” She answers that she is to say “Yes, Mama”, and she is much better prepared mentally for this event to happen.”
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